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Alchemy

How do you take what should be a happy time and make it ‘suck’ a little? Take that happiness and have it overshadowed by the need to prove a point.

Every human knows the feeling of needing to prove the naysayers wrong. Every person with a disability has this feeling on any new adventure we embark on.

A few weeks ago, I got myself a puppy named Alchemy. I already own a cat, but I grew up with dogs and, what can I say, I saw that little face and fell hard.

Love is all around … that was until one of my carers made the comment that I shouldn’t have a dog because, ‘I wouldn’t be able to look after it’.

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Dearest Lilly

We all know that I read a lot of blogs. I read them to see what other bloggers are writing. I also read them to see the types of comments people make about them. Today, while I was blog trawling, I came across the following comment relating to educating kids with disabilities in America.

‘Why do we even bother paying for education for these kids?’ wrote a commenter named Lilly. ‘Their parents chose to have kids and now their disability and special needs amount to a rise in taxes. Their parents just get a lawyer and fight and fight until the school district ends up paying for special programs. Why? Why not divert the funds for gifted and talented students instead of kids who will need societal support their whole life.’

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Pity

Anyone with a disability will know what it’s like to feel pitied – to be considered one of those ‘less fortunate’. It’s a sentiment that can follow us wherever we go. Sometimes it’s one of those flashing road signs that everyone can’t help but notice. At other times it’s more subtle like a gas that takes all the air from the room. So how can it be dealt with, without turning you into a frustrated or embittered creature from the deep?

The act of pity comes from a well-meaning place. It’s a well-intended act of kindness. It is also an assumption on their part. Some parts of our existence are more complicated than they are for most, it’s an inescapable fact. Able-bodied people are aware of that and feel bad for us – for what they have ‘have’ and we ‘lack’.

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Halves and crayons

I was watching one of those make over shows last night where one of the contestants had recently had his leg amputated. In the end, they gave him a new ‘high tech’ prosthetic leg and he commented that, as a result, he felt like a ‘whole’ person for the first time since his accident.

It’s a very personal issue. We will all have a different perspective on it. I understand his sentiment. I understand the feeling of being ‘less’ or ‘not as good’ when I compare myself to others (which we should never do, but do anyway … particularly as women). That said, I have to add that I’ve never felt ‘incomplete’ because of my disability or any other reason.

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